2010 Leap in to Win

Sitting in my home on a snowy day, as I look out at the white snow and the stillness that a day like this brings… I am reminded to enjoy the feelings of calmness, peacefulness and the desire to reflect on one’s life and circumstances.

Like many of you I came into the New Year with renewed hope and goals. I set powerful intentions for my life in 2010 and a month into the New Year the ‘real’ work begins. Just like in 2009 there are already twists and turns in 2010 for me personally, for you and for those all over the world that we did not expect.

For these and many other reasons our powerful intentions fall to the way side and we create more stress because we have let ourselves or others down. We set intentions, powerful goals not to add stress but because we know when we meet these intentions our relationships, our life and our work will be enhanced… this is how we leap in and win!

I have set high goals for myself in 2010 for my relationships, my career and my finances. I signed up for an online course to help me understand my “flaws” and my strengths, I promised to reconnect with friends I had neglected in 2009 and I put myself on a strict budget.

But every time I fall short of reaching one of my goals I beat myself up and I am very hard on myself. (I have been taught and trained to react this way). I was not conscious that this was really about a deep insecurity in me and that I was wasting energy. I thought if I worked hard enough to ‘fix’ myself everything would work out for me and I would have the acceptance, love and peace I desired.

It seems the harder I work the more circumstances “showed up” to block me; at least that is my interpretation, my perspective and my filter. I recently had an insight, it is not my circumstances, and it is my interpretation of those circumstances that is blocking me.

The victim hood, the anger, the being offended was not serving me I was giving away my power. I had to make a positive change to acknowledge, admit and express my underlying emotion. The truth is in many circumstances I just don’t feel I am good enough (whew, I said it) so I have to continuously prove myself. I had to leap in and take 100% responsibility for my life and my circumstances. And live my life by design and not default. The saying is true… THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE!

HERE ARE 5 IDEAS FOR YOU TO LEAP IN AND WIN IN 2010:

1. TELL THE TRUTH. Tell the truth to yourself and others. Be real with your emotions. In order to do that you have to be willing to be vulnerable. I decided to do just that and told a few friends and business associates my underlying emotions. Even though this was very difficult for me I have been able to unlock the fear in me and feel the support of my friends and colleagues. It has been amazingly liberating.

2. FORGIVE YOURSELF. I am hard on myself as many of us are and I am quick to see what is wrong with me. That mentality is filled with blame and shame some of which may be projected onto others or my circumstance. Raising my conscious awareness of this perspective enables me to create a space of real change.

3. APPRECIATE YOURSELF. Have appreciation and love for yourself even when things are not ideal. Appreciate the learning process in difficult situations, let go of feeling sorry for yourself and being offended when things don’t go your way. ( this sounds simple but it is harder than you think)


4. REALLY LISTEN TO OTHER’S POINT OF VIEW. I get stuck in believing I have to fight for what I think I deserve. Ultimately I believe God is in control of my life but in a moment of stress or disappointment I believe I can change or control the circumstance. I stop listening to the other person which separates me from people. This is what I DON’T WANT! So I am working on giving people the space to express their perspective, to not take it personally and to look for a way to connect even when it is difficult. ( this is a day by day process for me and some days I am better at it than other days )


5. FULLY COMMITMENT TO LIVE YOUR LIFE BY DESIGN AND GET INTO ACTION. Set major goals in your life hold yourself and have those close to you hold you accountable. “Stuff” will happen but choose to live your life with power, honesty and kindness.

Elevate yourself and others, allow space for others perspectives, let go of victim mentality, be willing to express your real emotions, be vulnerable and transform your life in miraculous ways. Leap in to win in 2010.

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