Shift Happens

Three months ago I made a proclamation… I was going to transform my life in 90 days. I wanted a shift in my career, my relationships and my finances. I set out to do everything I could to ‘make it happen’. I revised my resume, in my relationships I gave people room to be themselves and I stuck to a budget.

I felt that if I did what I was supposed to do, be diligent and intentional that my goals would be reached in 90 days. I would be happy, accomplished and fulfilled. Life would be great!

Well, on the outside not much changed. A friend said to me ‘Hey how about that transformation thing you were doing, did it work? It doesn’t look like it worked too well you are doing the same thing!’ But they could not see me on the inside, a shift had happened!

Well, what I learned is that a “shift happens within oneself before it manifest on the outside. Sometimes the “shift” is not recognized by others but deep down one knows a shift has happened. And the success of my inner transformation did manifest perhaps not like others thought it would; it happened in a way that would change my life forever. I noticed my relationship to others began to shift…

At the beginning of my season our team lost 5 games by one point, we lost 5 players for various reasons: injuries, a family death, academic difficulties etc. We were down to 8 players and the team was pretty down because had lost those tough games. I was faced with a dilemma-find a way to give them hope or give up. Giving up is never an option for me so I decided to give them hope. There is power in perseverance. We finished our season with the second best record in school history, going to the championship game in our conference. Most important my relationship with my players was stronger than ever.

A shift happened in other relationships too. I practiced being present with whomever I am with and allowing people to who they are. I learned that connect thoughts and feelings to people and we have filters we use to control people.

I learned love is a choice, not a feeling. I learned that I can be loving even if someone does not treat me well. I learned not to be easily offended, get upset or angry when someone did not act as I think they should. As a result people were drawn to me, wanted to help me and encourage me. What an awesome feeling!

In my finances I learned that is not necessarily how much money you make it is what you don’t do with it. I learned to practice delayed gratification; spend less have more to do what you want to do. I don’t need stuff to make me happy or to make me feel good about myself. I heard this and it stuck with me… Live like no one else so you can live like no want else!





Shift Happens and Inner Transformation manifest when:

• Stay in peace, be consistent and be fearless… Trust

• We realize we are not our thoughts and our feelings. We are so much more. We can stay in peace when people hurt us, when we don’t get the promotion or when things don’t work out just like we planned. Stay in faith, stay positive and believe your best is yet to come

• We recognize we can not always control our circumstances. The key is to live in hope and stay consistent. When we give up or stop for a period of time we lose our momentum. We may be closer to our goal than we think. My coach Kay Yow (North Carolina State University) would say “when you are behind don’t give up, when you are ahead don’t let up.”

• We give our power away to others by constantly reacting to every little thing that doesn’t go our way , compare ourselves to others or when people want us to act like they want. We make rules for others that they don’t know about and then we are upset because they let us down. Celebrate “real” freedom by living in the fullness of who you are meant to be and letting go of controlling others.

Shift Happens when you remain hopeful, believe in Truth and know your inner Self.

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