A LOVE REVOLUTION

I had someone say to me once – I am capable of loving you through your “gaps” (that is what I call flaws) but I choose not to. Wow, what a powerful statement; a hurtful one but it was indeed powerful. Powerful because it sent me on a quest to better understand love and choice.

I have always thought love was a feeling and it is. But that euphoric feeling of love when you first meet someone, when they take your breath away and you cannot stand to be apart – that is the loving feeling we are familiar with. It is a great feeling and being in love is awesome. What I found out is love is more than that… love is more than a feeling! We are more than our thoughts and feelings. I learned that I can choose to be happy regardless of my circumstances.

My circumstances do not control my happiness. I can still be kind, compassionate and gentle even though I may hurt. That was a REVOLUTION for me. A love revolution! I can choose to forgive myself and others; I can choose life and happiness. I can also choose not to be bitter, angry or waste another day being upset. Maybe that ‘s not a revolution to you but I have spent much of my life letting what people think, or circumstances or my feelings control whether I am happy and loving or not. This awakening has changed my life! LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, LOVE IS A CHOICE!

No matter how I feel I can still be… kind, patient, gentle, compassionate etc. You fill in the blank! We do not have to internalize others feelings about us. We can release people in the right way and stay in peace. The truth of the matter is this… People who are wounded wound other people. The offended offend and are unaware of the offense because most of the time they are not thinking about us. They are thinking about themselves.

It is easy to love someone who loves you back and who gives you what you want. It is much more difficult when our needs are not being met. But therein lies the beauty, we have the power within us to be loving and kind even when someone is not being loving and kind to us. This is where the Absolute Power lives in us! We can choose to do the right thing even when we don’t feel like it. We are more than our feelings. We don't have to be controlled by our thoughts and emotions.

I am not in any way suggesting that we let people run all over us. We certainly need to create a safe space to live and boundaries to protect our hearts; especially when it comes to intimate relationships. We must decide if this relationship is adding to our lives or sucking the air right out of us. If we are swimming against the current it is never too late to turn around and go with the flow! The flow is to remain in peace, keep the faith and persist with out exception. Choose life! Choose love!


The Three C’s to start a LOVE REVOLUTION in your life:
1. Commit – commit to happiness. Not in a way that we only think of ourselves but in a way that we have a grateful heart and we commit to be in service of others. True happiness occurs when we choose to think of others.

2. Compromise – Not our core values but in a way that there is give and take in our life and our relationships. Let go of being right. Have a forgiving Spirit; forgive yourself for your shortcomings and gaps. Forgive those who hurt you. It is a daily practice.

3. Connect - The most wonderful gift of all is to connect with your Higher Purpose and make a difference in the life of another. Connect with those who support your dreams and make you want to be better. Sometimes that may be the person right in front of you. At times we treat those who are the closest to us the worst; we don’t see them for the wonderful gift that they are.

Remember we are always at choice, choose happiness, choose life and choose love. We are more than our thoughts and feelings, we ARE the love revolution. Start one in your life, today.

I would love to hear how you will start a love revolution in your own life. Please share your stories. What is the one choice you will make today that will change your life, your work, and your relationships?

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