Your Authentic Leadership Style

Game Changer

2011-02-06T17:36:00.000-08:00

Have you ever had a moment in your life that you knew for certain that moment would change your life forever? I had such a moment on April 12, 2010. In that moment I made a decision that would change my life forever.

That decision was a simple but powerful one. I do not understand why I did not make the decision sooner. The simple but transformational decision was this - I decided to be happy. You’ve heard it many times, happiness is a choice. Happiness is a choice but it is a conscious choice that I must choose daily.

The transformation in my life, my relationships, my connections, my work was amazing, not to mention the inner transformation. From anger to peace, from control to allowing, from fear to faith, and from frustration to freedom. What I learned is that I must go through some things, the hardest experiences teach us the most. What comes at me must go through me to be a blessing to others. I had to learn to be the same whether I am under trials or not. I have taught myself to stay happy, to be patient and to keep a mind set that projects victory. I constantly remind myself when going through a trial that it is temporary and even in the midst of a test I still have much to be grateful for.

Furthermore, I practice the art of allowing. Allowing is when I allow people, things or a situation to be as it is ... without judging it, trying to fix it, wanting to change it or controlling the outcome. When I am completely present to what is, I tap into the immense power of allowing. Ironically, and paradoxically when I truly allow things and people to be exactly as they are I open space for real change and transformation occurs. To allow things to happen without manipulation or control is difficult for me; it requires me to practice faith, patience and trust. I must trust that the outcomes that are best for me are on the way!

The ultimate game changer of life is to choose love. Love is a choice, not a feeling! It’s about choosing how I will treat people. I have learned that I can feel many emotions but I do not have to act on them. I do not have to live in anger, or be easily offended or upset when things do not go my way. I choose to walk in love by faith. Do I always get it right? NO! Here’s what I know, at any given moment I can choose differently. If I am rowing up stream, going against the current of life at any moment I can let go of the oars and go with the flow! Being at choice is to empower myself with love and to consciously shift my Energy at any given moment. I am free to love and be loved.

Be a game changer in your own life... make the decision to be happy, practice the art of allowing and choose love. Then on the journey of your life you will become more of who you were meant to be. This is my hope for us all.

A LOVE REVOLUTION

2010-07-07T20:21:00.000-07:00

I had someone say to me once – I am capable of loving you through your “gaps” (that is what I call flaws) but I choose not to. Wow, what a powerful statement; a hurtful one but it was indeed powerful. Powerful because it sent me on a quest to better understand love and choice.

I have always thought love was a feeling and it is. But that euphoric feeling of love when you first meet someone, when they take your breath away and you cannot stand to be apart – that is the loving feeling we are familiar with. It is a great feeling and being in love is awesome. What I found out is love is more than that… love is more than a feeling! We are more than our thoughts and feelings. I learned that I can choose to be happy regardless of my circumstances.

My circumstances do not control my happiness. I can still be kind, compassionate and gentle even though I may hurt. That was a REVOLUTION for me. A love revolution! I can choose to forgive myself and others; I can choose life and happiness. I can also choose not to be bitter, angry or waste another day being upset. Maybe that ‘s not a revolution to you but I have spent much of my life letting what people think, or circumstances or my feelings control whether I am happy and loving or not. This awakening has changed my life! LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, LOVE IS A CHOICE!

No matter how I feel I can still be… kind, patient, gentle, compassionate etc. You fill in the blank! We do not have to internalize others feelings about us. We can release people in the right way and stay in peace. The truth of the matter is this… People who are wounded wound other people. The offended offend and are unaware of the offense because most of the time they are not thinking about us. They are thinking about themselves.

It is easy to love someone who loves you back and who gives you what you want. It is much more difficult when our needs are not being met. But therein lies the beauty, we have the power within us to be loving and kind even when someone is not being loving and kind to us. This is where the Absolute Power lives in us! We can choose to do the right thing even when we don’t feel like it. We are more than our feelings. We don't have to be controlled by our thoughts and emotions.

I am not in any way suggesting that we let people run all over us. We certainly need to create a safe space to live and boundaries to protect our hearts; especially when it comes to intimate relationships. We must decide if this relationship is adding to our lives or sucking the air right out of us. If we are swimming against the current it is never too late to turn around and go with the flow! The flow is to remain in peace, keep the faith and persist with out exception. Choose life! Choose love!

The Three C’s to start a LOVE REVOLUTION in your life:
1. Commit – commit to happiness. Not in a way that we only think of ourselves but in a way that we have a grateful heart and we commit to be in service of others. True happiness occurs when we choose to think of others.

2. Compromise – Not our core values but in a way that there is give and take in our life and our relationships. Let go of being right. Have a forgiving Spirit; forgive yourself for your shortcomings and gaps. Forgive those who hurt you. It is a daily practice.

3. Connect - The most wonderful gift of all is to connect with your Higher Purpose and make a difference in the life of another. Connect with those who support your dreams and make you want to be better. Sometimes that may be the person right in front of you. At times we treat those who are the closest to us the worst; we don’t see them for the wonderful gift that they are.

Remember we are always at choice, choose happiness, choose life and choose love. We are more than our thoughts and feelings, we ARE the love revolution. Start one in your life, today.

I would love to hear how you will start a love revolution in your own life. Please share your stories. What is the one choice you will make today that will change your life, your work, and your relationships?

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The 6 W’s of Life – You are wonderfully made!

2010-05-27T09:11:00.000-07:00

As a coach my work life has been defined in large part by wins and losses. (Notice I said my work life and not my life). If you win enough as a coach in the eyes of others you are a winner. We often define ourselves by our success in the work place, or by our salaries, our promotions and our titles. We all know life is about more than these things; life is about having victory in your life every day! For much of my professional life I have struggled with defining myself by wins and losses. Of course, we all want to win (winning is good) but it is not the only thing. The manner in which we win, how we treat others in the process and how we manage ourselves is paramount to living a happy and fulfilled life.
The 6 W’s is a way of life that will give you victory whether things go your way or not. One of the most important life lessons I have learned is that I can still be happy even when things don’t go my way. It was a personal revolution for me! I can remain positive and have a good attitude even when I feel I have been treated unfairly. You may ask how can that be? Here’s how:

6 W’s of Life I am…

1. Wealthy. Perhaps not in the sense we think as in having lots of money. If you have your health, friends and a family who loves you and the mental ability to solve your problems, you are wealthy.

2. Wise. Wisdom especially spiritual wisdom is a gift you can give yourself and share with others. Seek wisdom. You may have started life at a disadvantage, you may not have the education you want or you may not have the same talents as someone else but you can increase your wisdom daily. Use that wisdom to live a life of peace, love and joy no matter what is going on around you.

3. Wonderful. You have been fearlessly and wonderfully made. You are a gift of God and you have talents and gifts that are unique to you. Being wonderful is not about being arrogant or boastful it is about living your gifts in the service of others.

4. Worthy. You are worthy of living an abundant life; you deserve it! You are worthy of having good things happen in your life. You are worthy of treating yourself well and believing in yourself.

5. Worth it. In my own life at times I have felt not good enough. I have felt the need to prove my worthiness to others to get their approval. Having others approval is nice but not necessary. You are worth being treated with respect; you are worth someone loving you through your “gaps”. We all need at least one person in our life that loves and believes in us unconditionally.

6. Whole. You are naturally creative, resourceful and whole. The Power of the Universe lives in you. It is okay at times to seek the advice of others for your life but you have everything you need inside of you to make life choices that resonant with you and how you want to live your life!

Embodying the 6 W’s of life has given me a peace that I have not known before. It is indeed a daily practice. There are times when I still feel not good enough. I have to remind myself I am wonderfully made, that I do have gifts to offer the world. There are days I question am I really worth it? Am I worth it? I answer with a resounding yes; I remind myself I am worthy of a great life. When I feel alone or lonely I know I am worth love and peace. In my quiet times I feel the Wholeness of the Universe in me and I know without a doubt I will live a life of W’s; and so will you!

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Shift Happens

2010-04-19T18:50:00.000-07:00

Three months ago I made a proclamation… I was going to transform my life in 90 days. I wanted a shift in my career, my relationships and my finances. I set out to do everything I could to ‘make it happen’. I revised my resume, in my relationships I gave people room to be themselves and I stuck to a budget.

I felt that if I did what I was supposed to do, be diligent and intentional that my goals would be reached in 90 days. I would be happy, accomplished and fulfilled. Life would be great!

Well, on the outside not much changed. A friend said to me ‘Hey how about that transformation thing you were doing, did it work? It doesn’t look like it worked too well you are doing the same thing!’ But they could not see me on the inside, a shift had happened!

Well, what I learned is that a “shift happens within oneself before it manifest on the outside. Sometimes the “shift” is not recognized by others but deep down one knows a shift has happened. And the success of my inner transformation did manifest perhaps not like others thought it would; it happened in a way that would change my life forever. I noticed my relationship to others began to shift…

At the beginning of my season our team lost 5 games by one point, we lost 5 players for various reasons: injuries, a family death, academic difficulties etc. We were down to 8 players and the team was pretty down because had lost those tough games. I was faced with a dilemma-find a way to give them hope or give up. Giving up is never an option for me so I decided to give them hope. There is power in perseverance. We finished our season with the second best record in school history, going to the championship game in our conference. Most important my relationship with my players was stronger than ever.

A shift happened in other relationships too. I practiced being present with whomever I am with and allowing people to who they are. I learned that connect thoughts and feelings to people and we have filters we use to control people.

I learned love is a choice, not a feeling. I learned that I can be loving even if someone does not treat me well. I learned not to be easily offended, get upset or angry when someone did not act as I think they should. As a result people were drawn to me, wanted to help me and encourage me. What an awesome feeling!

In my finances I learned that is not necessarily how much money you make it is what you don’t do with it. I learned to practice delayed gratification; spend less have more to do what you want to do. I don’t need stuff to make me happy or to make me feel good about myself. I heard this and it stuck with me… Live like no one else so you can live like no want else!

Shift Happens and Inner Transformation manifest when:

• Stay in peace, be consistent and be fearless… Trust

• We realize we are not our thoughts and our feelings. We are so much more. We can stay in peace when people hurt us, when we don’t get the promotion or when things don’t work out just like we planned. Stay in faith, stay positive and believe your best is yet to come

• We recognize we can not always control our circumstances. The key is to live in hope and stay consistent. When we give up or stop for a period of time we lose our momentum. We may be closer to our goal than we think. My coach Kay Yow (North Carolina State University) would say “when you are behind don’t give up, when you are ahead don’t let up.”

• We give our power away to others by constantly reacting to every little thing that doesn’t go our way , compare ourselves to others or when people want us to act like they want. We make rules for others that they don’t know about and then we are upset because they let us down. Celebrate “real” freedom by living in the fullness of who you are meant to be and letting go of controlling others.

Shift Happens when you remain hopeful, believe in Truth and know your inner Self.

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2010 Leap in to Win

2010-01-31T14:53:00.000-08:00

Sitting in my home on a snowy day, as I look out at the white snow and the stillness that a day like this brings… I am reminded to enjoy the feelings of calmness, peacefulness and the desire to reflect on one’s life and circumstances.

Like many of you I came into the New Year with renewed hope and goals. I set powerful intentions for my life in 2010 and a month into the New Year the ‘real’ work begins. Just like in 2009 there are already twists and turns in 2010 for me personally, for you and for those all over the world that we did not expect.

For these and many other reasons our powerful intentions fall to the way side and we create more stress because we have let ourselves or others down. We set intentions, powerful goals not to add stress but because we know when we meet these intentions our relationships, our life and our work will be enhanced… this is how we leap in and win!

I have set high goals for myself in 2010 for my relationships, my career and my finances. I signed up for an online course to help me understand my “flaws” and my strengths, I promised to reconnect with friends I had neglected in 2009 and I put myself on a strict budget.

But every time I fall short of reaching one of my goals I beat myself up and I am very hard on myself. (I have been taught and trained to react this way). I was not conscious that this was really about a deep insecurity in me and that I was wasting energy. I thought if I worked hard enough to ‘fix’ myself everything would work out for me and I would have the acceptance, love and peace I desired.

It seems the harder I work the more circumstances “showed up” to block me; at least that is my interpretation, my perspective and my filter. I recently had an insight, it is not my circumstances, and it is my interpretation of those circumstances that is blocking me.

The victim hood, the anger, the being offended was not serving me I was giving away my power. I had to make a positive change to acknowledge, admit and express my underlying emotion. The truth is in many circumstances I just don’t feel I am good enough (whew, I said it) so I have to continuously prove myself. I had to leap in and take 100% responsibility for my life and my circumstances. And live my life by design and not default. The saying is true… THE TRUTH WILL SET YOU FREE!

HERE ARE 5 IDEAS FOR YOU TO LEAP IN AND WIN IN 2010:

1. TELL THE TRUTH. Tell the truth to yourself and others. Be real with your emotions. In order to do that you have to be willing to be vulnerable. I decided to do just that and told a few friends and business associates my underlying emotions. Even though this was very difficult for me I have been able to unlock the fear in me and feel the support of my friends and colleagues. It has been amazingly liberating.

2. FORGIVE YOURSELF. I am hard on myself as many of us are and I am quick to see what is wrong with me. That mentality is filled with blame and shame some of which may be projected onto others or my circumstance. Raising my conscious awareness of this perspective enables me to create a space of real change.

3. APPRECIATE YOURSELF. Have appreciation and love for yourself even when things are not ideal. Appreciate the learning process in difficult situations, let go of feeling sorry for yourself and being offended when things don’t go your way. ( this sounds simple but it is harder than you think)

4. REALLY LISTEN TO OTHER’S POINT OF VIEW. I get stuck in believing I have to fight for what I think I deserve. Ultimately I believe God is in control of my life but in a moment of stress or disappointment I believe I can change or control the circumstance. I stop listening to the other person which separates me from people. This is what I DON’T WANT! So I am working on giving people the space to express their perspective, to not take it personally and to look for a way to connect even when it is difficult. ( this is a day by day process for me and some days I am better at it than other days )

5. FULLY COMMITMENT TO LIVE YOUR LIFE BY DESIGN AND GET INTO ACTION. Set major goals in your life hold yourself and have those close to you hold you accountable. “Stuff” will happen but choose to live your life with power, honesty and kindness.

Elevate yourself and others, allow space for others perspectives, let go of victim mentality, be willing to express your real emotions, be vulnerable and transform your life in miraculous ways. Leap in to win in 2010.

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MEND IN 2010

2009-12-29T16:18:00.000-08:00

Have you ever felt that things are not going your way in your relationships, your finances or your career no matter how hard you try? Do you feel you are working harder for less? Do you feel as if every day is a struggle even though you try to stay positive and hope for the best? Do you feel anxious or feel like you live in fear because you don’t know what the future holds?

I have contemplated many if not all of those thoughts recently. I wondered what is wrong with me. I am an optimistic person. I enjoy life; I have lots to be thankful for. For goodness, sake I am a coach and the title of my book is “Coach Yourself to Greatness.” How can I be down on myself?

The reality is we all struggle from time to time. That life can be hard and unfair. And things don’t always go our way. The difference for me now is if I am down, I don’t stay down for long. I credit my Mom for giving me the gift of resiliency. I can bounce back; if I fall I get right back up.

The big difference is I can get on the “mend” quicker than I could before, I can coach myself to Greatness and live my Authentic Life. So can you by slowing down long enough to become aware of our thoughts and feelings.

The key is to become mindful ( be still) and reconnect with the Power of the Universe that lives in us; transcend what is happening around us and tap into the intrinsic wholeness that allows us to be open and receptive to balance, harmony and the Presence of the moment. When we can be with what is, peace comes within our souls and hope begins to rise up in us… We begin to mend.

Here are 10 ways to MEND in 2010:

1) Be generous. Give more than you think you can. I am not talking about material possessions. Give more of your time, a smile or a compliment. Be aware of the affect on you and the other person.

2) Practice GRATITUDE. Really practice it. I name five things I am grateful for in the morning before my feet hit the floor. At night I write down five good things that happened to me that day. We live in abundance we just have to remind ourselves.

3) BE STILL. Being still has worked miracles in my life. We are all so busy that we miss out on the simple pleasures of life, a conversation, a wink or a walk in nature. Practice mediation, being still even for 10 minutes will work miracles in your life. We all have 10 minutes we can give to ourselves.

4) Let go of delusional thinking. Most people are not thinking about us. We create these delusions in our minds which make us upset and angry. And ultimately causes us to disconnect from the people we care about the most. When we get angry and “go off” telling someone how angry they have made us we are instantly giving our power away. I use to do this all the time. Now I try to “sit with it” before I speak and reflect on what it is about me that is causing this particular thing upset me. Is it about me wanting to be right or wanting to control a situation? ‘Sitting with it’ can lead to self – awareness and freeing ourselves of old ways of thinking that no longer serve.

5) Have a TRUSTING heart. I don’t trust as much as I once did. When you have been hurt trusting seems a little more difficult. We may not always understand what is happening to us. But we can always respond with a trusting heart, trust that the process will take us where we need to be. The first element is to look deeply into what it is we can trust in ourselves. It always starts with us.

6) Be honest. I listened to Oprah on XM radio today and they asked the question what is the lie we tell ourselves. I repeated it to myself what is the lie I tell myself. The first order of honesty is to be honest with ourselves without blame, shame or judgment.

7) Be Hopeful. I am also a basketball coach and my team is struggling with close losses, injuries, personal problems and lack of confidence. I want very much to inspire them to do their best no matter what the circumstances and to help them embody a spirit of perseverance. How do I do this? I do it by drawing on my personal resources of strength in service of moving toward our goals. Realistic hope bonds people together and moves us together toward our desired end. Stay positive. I find hope through my spiritual practice.

8) Learn the lesson. I have a quote which says – in all things learn the lesson. When something is going on in my life and perhaps I do not fully understand why, I have learned to pause and ask the question what are you here to teach me. If you miss the lesson here, you are also likely to miss the lesson there. Learn the lesson and share the story. Someone else can learn from you!

9) Practice Self-efficacy. Understand what we can control and have an impact on is an key ingredient for successful people. We have the gifts and talents to accomplish our goals. Plus, believe (have faith) in positive outcomes and a sense of One’s personal power to affect the ultimate results.

10) Not Practice. Over the last 8 months I have not practiced yoga like I had before and what I noticed is it’s harder to hold the poses and my mind wanders. The same principles apply to life that apply to yoga. When you don’t practice these tools you see the effect of not having done it for awhile. So it’s paradoxical, you learn more about oneself by coming back to the tools and practicing them then if you never stopped.

Thus you have it; you are on your way to mend in 2010. Now the fun begins, practice these tools and you can begin living your authentic, holistic and healthy life.

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FALL BACK

2009-11-04T05:06:00.000-08:00

Fall back; we moved our clocks back one hour this past weekend. We gained an hour of sleep, which I desperately needed. On the other hand, none of my watches, my clocks in the car or the clocks in my house have the right time. I find myself asking the same question… What time is it ?
Have you noticed how time marches on? Summer comes and goes and before we know the summer is over, it’s Thanksgiving, Christmas and the beginning of a new year. And we say, where did the time go?
Where does time go? Time they say stops for no one. The bigger question is what are we doing with our time? Are we falling back into old habits, rituals and patterns that no longer serve us? Are we letting life just past us by hoping that something will change to make us happier, prettier or more fulfilled? As much as we may want some magic potion to “show up” and give us some direction, a purpose and a hope it will not unless we are intentional about ‘making it happen”
What needs to happen for us is to find the magic in our own lives is to wake up every morning and meet the day with energy and passion. What needs to awaken in you?
In nature the awakening seems to just occur without effort, the sun comes up each morning, in the fall the leaves change from green to orange to red, in the winter snow falls and stillness fills space and time. What about us? What season of life are you in right now?
I am in two seasons, I am in the season of fear and the season of authenticity. Both feelings are reality to me. I am embracing the emotional challenge of am I doing enough with my life, how do I show up authentically in everything that I do and when will my moment come when I feel I am truly living according to my purpose. Have you ever felt that way?
As I sit with each of these realities, I am tempted to ‘fall back’ into my old habits, wanting to control every outcome (which is fear base living), getting upset when things take longer than I think it should, being impatient. I could go on & on…
What I know now is to “be with” my fears, my insecurities, my feelings of not being good enough. And to show up real and authentic no matter what the circumstances or no matter how much the fear grips me. I know I have come to far to “fall back” and not show up as my Higher Self. I know I must face my fears, my doubts, look fear in the eye and affirm to myself fear does not define me… I define me. I have everything in me to live the life I desire.

Use these three simple tools to transform your fear and live a life of fulfillment:
1. Affirm yourself every day. For 10 days look in the mirror and affirm who you are and who you are becoming.
“We become who we think about most of the time. Zig Ziglar
2. Be Bold. Being Bold does not mean BIG! Our ego tells us it has to be BIG. Get out of your comfort zone. Being bold may be saying no, it may be speaking up in a meeting, it may be saying ‘I love you’ when the other person is not be so lovable 
3. Celebrate you! Embrace you. Be confident. Your purpose is to show up where you are and make a difference in the lives of those you encounter.

“Bloom where you are planted” Kay Yow, North Carolina State Women's Basketball Coach

Don’t fall back! Don’t fall back into old habits, thoughts and feelings that don’t lift you up instead love yourself, commit to personal growth and let others see all of who you are becoming… Oh yea, and take a moment to enjoy the autumn season, the change of leaves is symbolic of the change of what was, to what is and what will be.

Gratefully,

Coach Trudi

The 6 F’s of Fulfillment

2009-01-04T14:10:00.000-08:00

Happy New Year! It is hard to believe another year has ended and a new year is here. With the beginning of something new there is always something old we leave behind. Whether the past was good or bad, it is done and gives way to the new. The one constant is change, do not fight it, allow it, surrender to it and watch the Power of the Universe create miracles in your life!

As we leave behind, the unprecedented unemployment, foreclosures, buy outs, bail outs, the doom and glum of 2008; we can continue to focus on what is not going well, what we have lost, we can continue to live in fear and doubt OR we can choose to live in hope, faith and love!

We can choose to get off the sidelines of our lives and get back in the game. We can become a playmaker in our own lives. We can begin again. No matter what has happened in the past, no matter how many mistakes we have made. You and I have the Power of the entire Universe in us to help us design and live the life we are intended to live. Our best life is ahead of us, not behind us!

In order to experience the fullness of life is to BE with life, even the most difficult times. Don’t skip over the tough times, don’t run from them, BE present in it AND LEARN THE LESSON. THE LESSON IS WHAT WILL PROPEL YOU TO GREATNESS!! The trick is to turn what looks like a negative into a positive.

My big life lesson in 2008 was to practice gratitude, NO MATTER WHAT! My unending gratitude taught me to live courageously and with strength because it allowed me to learn to forgive, to forgive those who judge me, to those who hurt me to those who stepped out of my life in my most difficult moments and most importantly to forgive myself.

I am grateful for the pain and disappointments because it transformed me and I grew closer to God through the pain. I humbly accept my part in the struggle and I am grateful for my willingness to look into my soul with truth and to own my “own stuff”. Only then was I able to see God molding me to be who He wants me to be.

The same strength lives in you. Be thankful for lessons learned, they are valuable; they lead to fulfillment. Follow the SIX F’s for Fulfillment; focus on filling your cup with love and joy so you can pour hope into the heart of another.

Set specific goals in each area to begin to live a life of rich fulfillment:

• Faith – Tap into the Power of the Universe daily
• Fitness – Set a daily fitness goal
• Finances – What changes can you make daily to improve your finances?
• Family – What can you do daily to show love to those closest to you?
• Friends – Give friends the gift of forgiveness
• Fun – Plan a fun activity for yourself at least once a week

Life is divine in ’09!

2008-04-17T15:12:00.000-07:00

It’s Spring, Unflower Your Hidden Potential

As Spring begins to unfold I am reminded of new beginnings. The long winter is gone, we can plant seeds in the fertile soil of our souls and look as the sun rises to a new way of Being in the world.

My journey has taken me to a new way of being in the world, a kinder more gentle me. An unflowering of my potential, a piece of me that has always been there but I was not aware of the fullness in me.

It has been a winter of learning. My practice is to stay with it even in the tough times, even when I wanted to quit, even when in the stillness of the night I felt so all alone. I was embolden to keep the faith and to continue with courage until I could see the dawning of a new day, until I could see the seeds of faith begin to grow flowers of love, joy, patience and forgiveness. Trust me it is worth the wait when the flowers of your soul blossom and you find a calmness and peace that goes beyond understanding. It is worth the wait, you are worth it!

IN the Unflowering of your Hidden Potential consider these Life Giving Tools:

1. Cultivate Stillness in the midst of craziness and chaos
by practicing BEING PRESENT in the moment. Ask not that the moment changes but you change in the moment. In that moment be present without judgment, without blame and without resistance. Just notice the quiet in you.

By raising your self – awareness you become less reactive. We open space for something more, something different or something new. This is what it means to “awaken” to your life.

The shift (transformation) occurs not when we change someone else but when we change how we react to them or to the situation. (BIG AHA for me!) Transformation is when our response is NONREACTIVE and it comes from rich, fertile soil within us, from a whole place of wanting to meet another where they are.

2. The backdrop of the human condition is to run from hurt and disappointments, to find comfort zones to ease our inner pain, our soul wounds and to fall into habitual patterns that help us forget. We become unconscious, less alive, less present even unto ourselves.

Mindfulness happens when we practice being with the currents of life; the rough waters of our lives. Instead of struggling against the current in the river of life, turn around and let the current carry you! When we are able to do this we leave space for Life to teach us, move us and manifest more than we can imagine. We no longer struggle to control every outcome. But we are able to flow with Life as it is.

3. When we are not working so hard to control outcomes, to identify with our roles, goals, titles and needs we are free to feel our energy and be conscious of watering the seeds in our own souls, of planting seeds in caring, trusting relationships, and breathing in the sweet aroma of our true meaning and purpose.

We are able to feel the shift in our way of Being in the world, be Present to the Stillness and Calm ness that lives in us – this is the Unflowering of our Hidden Potential. Our Hidden Potential is to ‘show up’ as our selves and know that alone is enough.

Stay Present to the UNflowering of YOU! Namaste

To be yourself in a world that tries to make you someone else, is your Greatest accomplishment.
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

The Ultimate Game - Discover Your Compelling Purpose Personally and Professionally

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THE ULTIMATE GAME with Trudi Lacey

Sunday, February 24, 2008; 2 - 4 pm, cost: $30.00

YogaOne Yoga One Wellness, 1111 Central Ave, Suite 100, Charlotte, NC

ph: 704-332-9911

Register Online! or in person.

Join Trudi Lacey Former WNBA Charlotte Sting Head Coach and General Manager;

President of LifeCoachDesigns

Performance Coach extraordinaire of YogaOne's 40 Days of Transformation for : 'The Ultimate Game'

What would it mean to unlock your hidden potential and offer your gifts to the world?

Learn where you are giving your power away and not staying in the game.

Learn through the Architect of Life Model how to be the CEO of your life.

Discover your compelling purpose and how to pursue a Bigger Game (www.BiggerGame.com) in your life.

"Create the momentum to win the Ultimate Game and design the life that you deserve."

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In stepping into my own Authentic Leadership Style, I based my journey on four principles of building trust with myself and others:

1. Unclutter Your Life. The most successful executives I know spend at least 30 minutes a day taking time for themselves; exercising, meditating, walking the dog, relaxing on the deck with a glass of wine or tea, spending time dumping out the old thoughts that bind us, and laying new tracks for creative thought and energy.

2. Tap into Your Energy Source. Spend time increasing your awareness by being conscious of what you are paying attention to. When you increase your awareness of your thoughts and how they make you feel, you begin to make choices that are in right alignment with your highest vision of yourself. When you make right choices for you and in the service of adding value to others, you begin to trust yourself more. As you trust yourself more, your confidence soars. And as confidence is exuberated, optimal performance is sustainable.

You spend less time worrying about circumstances you can not control and less time trying to control others. Use the principle of integrity (living to the highest vision of yourself) and your “third eye” to see the talents and abilities of others. Use your energy towards enhancing your life and performance, and attracting what you want in your life.

3. Check your rear view mirror. What are you holding onto from your past that is blocking your future? Do a personal inventory of your business and personal relationships, your finances, your habits and commitments. Are you planting seeds in fertile soil? Are you maximizing your ROI by investing in the right people for your life and work balance?

You may need to walk courageously into your highest self by distancing yourself from those who suck energy from you and from every room they enter. Who will you pass the ball to that can assist you in leading your team to the championship? Invest your time and energy into people and tasks that return the greatest reward for your investment.

4. Be in the zone. You control only a portion of components that lead to your success or failure. Live and lead organically but tune into your “vibe” – utilize the principle of whole body thinking as a life tool to tap into your authentic power. Whole body thinking is living with mind, heart, soul and body in alignment with right relationship with yourself and others. Know that your vibe has impact on yourself and those around you. Use the Principle of Intuitive Knowing for innovative strategic planning, to increase positivity and to sustain optimal performance. Every experience creates a culture of learning for your employees, friends or loved ones who are not made to be wrong but who are free to express creative thoughts openly without judgment.

To step into your Authentic Leadership Style is to walk courageously in the knowledge that you are creative, resourceful and whole unto yourself. You possess all that you need to lead not only yourself, but also to assist those who walk with you. To act on what serves and adds value to your life, you can add value to the world.

For more information contact Trudi Lacey at 704.504.8825 or visit our website at www.lifecoachdesigns.com

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